Life has a way of throwing us curveballs just when we least expect them. For me, the most recent one came in the form of a temporary move away from my home. Because of several events, I couldn't stay at home and had to leave. I couldn't imagine living without my dogs, so I took one of my chihuahua with me. Although the absence of my other dogs tugs at my heartstrings daily, I understand that sometimes, we must make difficult choices for the greater good. 

 

This short, unexpected retreat actually marks my first holiday since the COVID lockdown. As I settle into my new environment, an epiphance blankets over me: the immeasurable value of personal space. Being in a space that I can call my own, even temporarily, has illuminated just how profound an impact it has on one’s mental well-being. My thoughts are clearer, and I feel more optimistic about the future in general. I realized how unhealthy my lifestyle had been for the longest time. I wasn't sleeping enough. I wasn't eating enough. I wasn't resting enough. At the time, I couldn't see it and I thought it was the normal thing to do. 

 

None of this would have been possible without the help from a dear friend. He came back into my life suddenly after seven years and reached out to me. Sometimes, we become so entrenched in our routines and comfort zones that it takes an external perspective to make us see things differently. Or in this case, a divine intervention, because that's what it feels like. This friend not only saw the opportunity for a positive shift in my life but also had the heart to encourage and support my decisions, even when he disagreed with me. He is not the gentlest person and he comes across as a little bit intimidating to many people, but everything he does comes from a place of love. I have never felt safer anywhere else. 

 

Change can be daunting, but sometimes it's just the jolt we need to rediscover ourselves. And as I sit here in my temporary abode, Timmy the chihuahua by my side, I can't help but think about how unpredictable this year has been. I know it's only August, but it feels like years to me!

Discussion Questions:

1. How has personal space affected your mental well-being, especially during challenging times like lockdowns?
2. Can you recall a time when someone pulled you out of your comfort zone? How did that change impact your life?
3. How do you cope with the absence of loved ones, whether they are human or pets?
4. What does the phrase "breath of fresh air" mean to you in the context of personal growth and change?
5. How do new surroundings or environments stimulate personal growth and understanding?
6. Think about someone who changed your life. What did they do? How did they change you?